What comes to your mind when you hear the word love? Does Raj and Simran serenading each other appear in your thoughts, or Romeo and Juliet’s sacrifice, or something like your parent’s weird yet sweet love story. Everyone’s answer will be different, for some, it can be; giving your whole self to your significant other, taking care of each other’s every need or it can also be a mother’s unconditional love for her children.
We need to Queer the air
There is something in common between all these answers; you always imagine your lover to be of the opposite gender. Right? Or at least that’s what we’ve been taught ever since the day we were old enough to watch movies. A guy falls in love with a girl and they live happily ever after. But what if the guy doesn’t? What if he starts liking his childhood best friend to an extent that we cannot call it as platonic anymore? Why aren’t we taught that love is something so pure and vast, that it does not matter who you love and how you love them?
Let’s Trans-Fer some knowledge
LGBTQ+ community is a phoenix that was born out of the ashes of dangerous stereotypes and social stigmas. It is an inclusive community which supports people no matter what their gender, race or social status is. It teaches us new ideologies of love. That love does not stop till the requirement that is something as trivial as gender. Love can conquer all.
You are not Homolone
Loving or having a relationship with someone as same gender as yours was considered to be a crime in our country until the year of 2018. It was looked down upon. It’s a shame that it took this long for our country to let people love whoever they want and however they want. Nevertheless, the passage of section 377 of the Indian Penal Code was a huge step towards progress. It had a huge positive impact on the country’s youth and also encouraged many people to come forward and accept who they really are.
Be kind in a world where you can be anything
What some people don’t know about the decriminalizing of section 377, is that the executive director of The Lalit Hotels namely Keshav Suri played a huge role in it. He was the one who filed a petition in the supreme court to decriminalize homosexuality. He also provided inclusivity for the whole LGBT community in his hotels and promoted drag race through his club kitty su.
Self-hatred is not therapy
But where there are people like Keshav existing in this world, there are also monsters who support conversion therapy. It is something which uses various psychological, physical and spiritual means to change one’s sexual orientation. What is even more gruesome about it is that it’s still legal in almost 30 countries of the United States? We can also see it as family rejection. As horrifying as it sounds, there are still parents existing out there who would put their children at risk and send them to such therapies, rather than come to terms with their child’s sexuality. Is your reputation really that important?
What is it like to be a part of the LGBTQ+ Community in the 21’st Century
It takes a lot of courage to come to terms with the fact that you do like someone who is not of the opposite gender, and even more to say it loud. One can only imagine the things today’s youth is going through when it comes to accepting who you are. With movies like Shubh Mangal Zyada Saavdhan, Call me by your name, Love Simon, etc. which have taken steps to normalize homosexuality through beautiful woven stories has proved to be of huge help. They act as a beacon of hope for those who have stopped trying and shoved their truths so deep within themselves that it is so difficult to bring them out of the black hole that is formed by homophobic uncles and aunties.
Personally, I think there are ways that many people are gaining knowledge and accepting the new norms. Even though it is gradual, still it can help us create a loving community in the future. So just remember to be yourself and spread the message that love has no gender.